I am almost done my masters degree. My live in boy friend never graduated high school, but I convinced him to enroll in univesity as a mature student. In his second semester, he has completely stopped going to class, playing world of warcraft and online poker instead. He says university isn’t for him but has no other plans. He says I try too hard to control the future, but I just want him to get a trade or something stable. Something other than fast food. I know our relationship won’t work if I am making 65K a year and he is serving burgers. We would get in fights over bills and all that, plus he wouldnt be happy. I don’t know what to do.
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Leave him, if he obviously doesnt want to be better educated, and your smart, obviously, you deserve someone better and im sure you will find the guy that makes you happy and wont be serving burgers =)
Okay in this modern age you got to have an education if he does not want that then he should not be the one close to any of my kids. Its not like he does not have the opportunity to go so like he is not ambitious like you and you should SERIOUSLY LEAVE HIS SORRY ***
tell him you don’t want him to end up unhappy for the rest of his life as some frycook flipping burgers. that you only care for his future. and that he does deserve a good life.
You deserve SO MUCH better than that. You’re wasting your time trying to make his life better and he obviously doesn’t appear to appreciate it. Why waste your time on him? Find someone who at least acknowledges your existence.
You can’t! he seems like a slacker and pretty soon you’ll have nothing in common and you’ll leave or you’ll be raising your “child” boyfriend forever
Kick him out.
He should be motivated to change so that he can be proud of himself for you. If he has no other plans, leave until he gets some plans. He is totally taking advantage of you having a great job and that is not fair.
You can sit him down and explain to him that you want to be with someone who will be able to give you the support that you need. He sounds like an unmotivated underachiever and I don’t know if you will be able to change him. Try to get him motivated. As long as you are letting him stay with you, and not making him help with the bills, you are enabling him to be a lazy bastard.
He says you try to hard to control the future, but it is normal, even healthy to want to have a stable future. I am sure you do not obsess excessively over the future. He is just lazy and he might be taking advantage of you.
Yes it can work if you’re making that much and he doesn’t but it will be tough. It happens all the time with other people only the guy making that kind of money and the wife doesn’t. What makes you think you’re in any different position? So you’d be the bread winner of the family, big deal, if you love him what does it matter. You just have to learn how to not spend past your limits. So many people spend way more than they make. My wife and I could live on half that amount and we’d live pretty well. We don’t need much. You do have to get him off that stupid game WOW. I know one guy that refuses to do anything but play that game. He hasn’t worked in years and doesn’t care. His mommy pays for everything and he’s 35 years old. I refuse to allow the Internet in my house for just that reason. Force him to pay certain bills (like the Internet and electric) and if he doesn’t give him an ultimatum. No one should get a free ride. He needs to share the expenses in a 50/50 deal. Total up all expenses then divide them in half. Show it to him and tell him that’s how much he has to come up with or get out.
Hope this helps, good luck you’ll need it.